therapy
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therapy means healing and becoming more yourself. it is not strictly talk therapy or any other form - it is what works for you ✨
have completed 3 sessions with the fancy new therapist, but every two weeks doesn’t seem like enough so i’m going to try weekly for the next month. there’s so much i want to work on!
the price is pretty intense but it feels like what i need to invest in most right now, so i’ll make it happen—even if it means i need to start a new alt for feet pics or something 😈
all the work has me feeling pretty lost and liminal, but it’s not a bad place to be. i just want to make sure i maximize the opportunity and not just revert to old patterns and habits, so erring to the side of doing less and being more and seeing what the true priorities are. i expect more clarity and momentum soon
the price is pretty intense but it feels like what i need to invest in most right now, so i’ll make it happen—even if it means i need to start a new alt for feet pics or something 😈
all the work has me feeling pretty lost and liminal, but it’s not a bad place to be. i just want to make sure i maximize the opportunity and not just revert to old patterns and habits, so erring to the side of doing less and being more and seeing what the true priorities are. i expect more clarity and momentum soon
I’ve found this reflection helpful when challenging, triggering emotions/reactions arise:
This feeling is a visitor, not a verdict.
This feeling is a visitor, not a verdict.
Most of us are 8 year olds walking around in adult bodies. Being emotionally mature is a skill we have to want to learn and that we have to practice.
To recognize our emotions and actually feel them, process them in a calm manner without blaming the external. Frustration actually comes from putting the power to regulate outside of ourselves.
To recognize our emotions and actually feel them, process them in a calm manner without blaming the external. Frustration actually comes from putting the power to regulate outside of ourselves.
Convo on Twitter reminded me of one of my therapy talks last year - this is a spend up version @devcon
https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=mKDf6mBemhg
https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=mKDf6mBemhg
i completed my second session with the fancy new therapist recently
we did parts work with tapping, speaking to different ages of myself, starting with prenate. working with my infant self absolutely broke me for some reason
despite having no memories or stories from this time, i tapped into a great well of pain that originated there
it was sad and it was a lot, but we made tons of progress. it feels like a layer of my psyche that has been hypervigilant my whole life has finally relaxed into a feeling of safety
my anxiety levels are noticeably down and i have more energy for other things. it feels like there are still layers and facets to attend to, but i’m excited to keep moving forward with this
we did parts work with tapping, speaking to different ages of myself, starting with prenate. working with my infant self absolutely broke me for some reason
despite having no memories or stories from this time, i tapped into a great well of pain that originated there
it was sad and it was a lot, but we made tons of progress. it feels like a layer of my psyche that has been hypervigilant my whole life has finally relaxed into a feeling of safety
my anxiety levels are noticeably down and i have more energy for other things. it feels like there are still layers and facets to attend to, but i’m excited to keep moving forward with this
PSA: read Non Violent Communication by Marshall Rosenberg
Saturday relaxation moves on...
I haven't done this in more than 5 years probably. How awesome is that! 🙂↕️
I haven't done this in more than 5 years probably. How awesome is that! 🙂↕️
Practicing being radically aware of who is in the driver’s seat of your life at every moment vs slipping into unconscious autopilot is one of the most important exercises you’ll do for yourself and others
i often have nightmares set in the house where i grew up. they range from awkward and unpleasant to horrific and violent
but there has been a shift lately. i’ve started also having dreams there that are full of more joy and warmth than i ever experienced there. it feels significant. things are really shifting
but there has been a shift lately. i’ve started also having dreams there that are full of more joy and warmth than i ever experienced there. it feels significant. things are really shifting
Therapy is good.
first introductory session with the new therapist is complete! she essentially made a map of my family tree and added notes about some of the experiences and dynamics involved
it seemed like she had a lot of wtf moments, and was impressed that i’m even functioning in society after all that
me too, tbh. i’m excited to get deeper into it next week!
it seemed like she had a lot of wtf moments, and was impressed that i’m even functioning in society after all that
me too, tbh. i’m excited to get deeper into it next week!
"When we are tired, we are attacked by ideas we conquered long ago." Nietzsche
belonging.
in my early life, in high school, i was physically immature compared to my classmates. (i grew a foot and a half in 6 months at 17.)
i couldn’t quite figure out a perfect friend group, and always aspired to be one of the cool kids. one of the sports kids. one of the kids with a girlfriend.
sports weren’t my thing and, because of my physical immaturity and a hint of middle-child syndrome, i found theatre. and i was great at it.
and i had a community, a great one, a troupe, but i never wanted that community, the cool kids didn’t like it. the sports kids. they thought it was weird. and so did i. even though i was in it.
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belonging / my sense of belonging has been a challenging feeling that i’m working to unpack, still on the journey.
understanding if the community is right for *me.*
understanding what *my* purpose is within a community.
understanding who *i* am in a community
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living an examined life is challenging but immensely fulfilling.
in my early life, in high school, i was physically immature compared to my classmates. (i grew a foot and a half in 6 months at 17.)
i couldn’t quite figure out a perfect friend group, and always aspired to be one of the cool kids. one of the sports kids. one of the kids with a girlfriend.
sports weren’t my thing and, because of my physical immaturity and a hint of middle-child syndrome, i found theatre. and i was great at it.
and i had a community, a great one, a troupe, but i never wanted that community, the cool kids didn’t like it. the sports kids. they thought it was weird. and so did i. even though i was in it.
—
belonging / my sense of belonging has been a challenging feeling that i’m working to unpack, still on the journey.
understanding if the community is right for *me.*
understanding what *my* purpose is within a community.
understanding who *i* am in a community
—
living an examined life is challenging but immensely fulfilling.
Meditation isn’t self-improvement work. It’s self-acceptance work.
The world is a better place with you in it. 🖤
Meditate.
Live in the present.
Cultivate a positive mindset.
Develop love for yourself.
Practice self-care.
Live in the present.
Cultivate a positive mindset.
Develop love for yourself.
Practice self-care.
You can't control someone's toxic behavior, but you can control how long you tolerate it.
Set boundaries, prioritize your peace, and remember your worth isn't tied to their actions. 🌿
Set boundaries, prioritize your peace, and remember your worth isn't tied to their actions. 🌿
In order to process the millions of bits of information were exposed to every day the brain has a system to prioritise and pick out what it deems most important.
It filters everything and how we interpret information is shaped by:
Past experiences - Our experiences shape our beliefs, which influence how we see the world.
Personal biases - Cultural influences, societal norms, and unconscious assumptions shape our beliefs - mostly without us even realising it.
Mindset & emotions - Our emotional state impacts how we react to new information. If you're already stressed, you're more likely to interpret a neutral comment as criticism.
We’re never really getting an
objective view of things.
The reticular activating system (RAS), a network in our brainstem, acts as a filter-deciding what gets our attention & what gets ignored, generally we notice more of what aligns with what we already believe (confirmation bias)
It filters everything and how we interpret information is shaped by:
Past experiences - Our experiences shape our beliefs, which influence how we see the world.
Personal biases - Cultural influences, societal norms, and unconscious assumptions shape our beliefs - mostly without us even realising it.
Mindset & emotions - Our emotional state impacts how we react to new information. If you're already stressed, you're more likely to interpret a neutral comment as criticism.
We’re never really getting an
objective view of things.
The reticular activating system (RAS), a network in our brainstem, acts as a filter-deciding what gets our attention & what gets ignored, generally we notice more of what aligns with what we already believe (confirmation bias)
You're not a problem to be fixed.
You are a person to be understood and supported.
You are a person to be understood and supported.
You don't have to feel good all the time to be okay.
Life moves in cycles.
Life moves in cycles.
Your emotions don't need to be justified to anyone.
They're yours, and they matter!
They're yours, and they matter!
Healing isn't linear.
Some days will be harder than others, and that's completely normal.
Keep going.
Some days will be harder than others, and that's completely normal.
Keep going.
Change takes time.
Your brain rewires itself through repetition, so be patient with yourself.
Your brain rewires itself through repetition, so be patient with yourself.
Quick reminder:
A regulated nervous system makes everything easier.
Prioritize sleep, movement, and moments of stillness.
A regulated nervous system makes everything easier.
Prioritize sleep, movement, and moments of stillness.
Sound frequencies have been linked to improved sleep quality.
Frequencies like 528 Hz are often used in sleep music.
Frequencies like 528 Hz are often used in sleep music.
Different frequencies can affect how we feel.
For example, 396 Hz is said to help release fear, creating a sense of security.
For example, 396 Hz is said to help release fear, creating a sense of security.
Anything you practice, you get good at. Positively or negatively…
Take 5 minutes today to breathe and listen to something soothing — like pink noise or steady rain.
Your mind and body will thank you.
What’s your favorite way to reset when life feels overwhelming?
Your mind and body will thank you.
What’s your favorite way to reset when life feels overwhelming?
Therapy looks different for everyone.
For some, it's talking.
For others, it's journaling, walking, or even listening to calming sounds.
What's one thing that helps YOU feel more like yourself?
Let's inspire each other with our healing journeys. 💕
P.S. If soundscapes are your thing, I've got you covered.
For some, it's talking.
For others, it's journaling, walking, or even listening to calming sounds.
What's one thing that helps YOU feel more like yourself?
Let's inspire each other with our healing journeys. 💕
P.S. If soundscapes are your thing, I've got you covered.
I have found that the inner work brings with it an absolute pleasure of being within - with all the parts of you - like a big, delightful Sunday lunch gathering.
It has also brought less desire to over communicate, rather observe more - not in a judgement based way but in an observing life and its forms move from a place of calm contemplation.
It has also brought less desire to over communicate, rather observe more - not in a judgement based way but in an observing life and its forms move from a place of calm contemplation.
"Phones mean that solitude is more crowded than it used to be, and crowds are more solitary. 'Bright lines once separated being alone and being in a crowd.' Now our social time is haunted by the possibility that something more interesting is happening somewhere else, and our downtime is contaminated by the streams and posts and texts of dozens of friends, colleagues, frenemies, strangers."
Want to stop waking up tired?
Let white noise guide you to the best sleep you've had in ages.
🔗 youtu.be/8tDxg-Pkh9M
Don't wait – start sleeping better tonight! 😴✨
Let white noise guide you to the best sleep you've had in ages.
🔗 youtu.be/8tDxg-Pkh9M
Don't wait – start sleeping better tonight! 😴✨
White noise can help newborns sleep better by mimicking the constant whooshing sounds they heard in the womb, creating a familiar environment.
Every year I go through the same cycle of feeling both excitement and heavy uncertainty at ‘what’s next’.
At this stage I’ve gone through the cycle enough times to know it’ll always work out - even if it works in the opposite way I expected or things get really bad before they get better.
I always find a way through by taking it one step at a time. Nothing in life is certain, but part of the adventure is trusting yourself to navigate it nonetheless.
At this stage I’ve gone through the cycle enough times to know it’ll always work out - even if it works in the opposite way I expected or things get really bad before they get better.
I always find a way through by taking it one step at a time. Nothing in life is certain, but part of the adventure is trusting yourself to navigate it nonetheless.
At the core of all anger is a need that is not being fulfilled
Brown noise has been shown to help improve focus during long study sessions, thanks to its deeper, richer frequencies that calm mental chatter.
🔗 https://youtu.be/oZZmdQm0h3Y
🔗 https://youtu.be/oZZmdQm0h3Y
Combining rain sounds with guided breathing exercises can amplify the effects of relaxation, helping you feel calmer in less than five minutes.
Let everything happen to you: beauty and terror. Just keep going.
No feeling is final. - Rainer Maria Rilke
No feeling is final. - Rainer Maria Rilke
"When you understand that every opinion is a vision loaded with personal history, you will begin to understand that all judgment is a confession."
I rarely read quotes that make my jaw drop, but when I do, they sound like this one above.
I rarely read quotes that make my jaw drop, but when I do, they sound like this one above.
"I imagine one of the reasons people cling to their hates so stubbornly is because they sense, once hate is gone, they will be forced to deal with pain." - James Baldwin, Notes of a Native Son
Tonight, let the rain help you sleep better. 🛏️
Our relaxing rain sounds create the perfect environment for deep, uninterrupted sleep.
🔗 https://youtu.be/bDKcB_pQZQM
Experience the magic of the rain. 😌
Our relaxing rain sounds create the perfect environment for deep, uninterrupted sleep.
🔗 https://youtu.be/bDKcB_pQZQM
Experience the magic of the rain. 😌
Did you know?
Certain rain sounds, like a drizzle or soft downpour, can remind us of childhood memories, creating a subconscious sense of safety and warmth.
Certain rain sounds, like a drizzle or soft downpour, can remind us of childhood memories, creating a subconscious sense of safety and warmth.
"Everyone thinks of changing the world, but no one thinks of changing himself." - Leo Tolstoy
